Energy Tool to Release Grief from the Body
"Raking the Lungs"
Grief is held in the lungs.
Here is an easy tool from the Eden Method (used with permission) to assist the body in releasing grief https://www.youtube.com/shorts/S0a7U0PV7II
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By raking your fingers across your chest, the energy of grief is shed and helps lighten the load of grief, providing calm and peace.
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​It takes only a few seconds and can provide much needed relief when grief is heavy.
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Nightly Grief Ritual
Each night for two years after my husband's passing, I would do a grief healing ritual in my room before going to sleep. My grief was so heavy, but there was no option to express it in the day to day world. My world had completely changed, but the rest of the world continues on, paying no heed. So at night, I would create a sacred space and enter the world of grief. I gave myself space to mourn. I witnessed and honored my grief. Humans have used rituals from time immemorial to mark major life events and passages. Humans need ritual to heal.
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First, put on some relaxing music. This signals to your body that you are about to enter the realm of ritual and sacred space. Some songs that I found to be healing: The Wish by George Skaroulis, Life Eternal by Kevin Wood, The Widow's Mansion by Paul Cardall, Shores of Avalon by Tina Malia, Alone by Michele McLaughlin, Coinleach Glas An Fhomhair by Clannad, and Angel by Sarah McLachlan. Choose whatever speaks to you. Prepare a hot bath with epsom salts and a few drops of lavender essential oil. As you sit in the bath, imagine the water melting away the weight of grief that you are carrying. Close your eyes and just listen to the music and be with whatever feelings and emotions come up. Place your hands on your heart for a few moments. "Grief bursts" are common - a sudden need to cry, wail - however it may manifest. Let it happen. This is how grief heals.
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After the bath (no more than 20 minutes), sit in a comfortable chair and light a candle. Light some palo santo or any incense you prefer and move the smoke around the room and around your person. I would wave the smoke around my husband's side of the bed, honoring his memory and his presence there. I felt that the grief was heavy in my room and I sensed that the smoke helped bring healing energy to my space.
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Then take a wooden stick such as a hibachi stick and blow into it all the feelings of grief and other thoughts and feelings you would like to dispel. Blow everything into the stick that you would like to release. Then burn the stick in the flame of the candle, imagining everything that you blew into the stick is now being transformed by the flame.
Be sure to have a fire proof dish to rest it in when done. Continue to sit in the chair as long as you need to, closing your eyes, and continuing to listen to the music you have chosen.
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Modify this ritual any way you like. The important thing is to do what is comforting and healing for you, and to create a healing space with intention and regularity.
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